I choose my friends very carefully. I don't have hundreds of them. They are a dozen at most. But they are the people I enjoy being with.
I have noticed though that the greater majority are actually much younger than me, actually this is great.
But at the same time, I am faced to my own limitations as a single mum. I see all that they do and I am happy for them, it's brilliant. It is just not possible for me. So I am there on the outside looking in.
I went to the Crunch on Friday and had the realisation that this event is no longer for me. Why? The bar used to be opened by 7 and I could socialise a bit before leaving at 8:30 / 9 to be with my son. Opening at 8 makes it now totally pointless. And that's OK. I just won't do that one.
Now you are wondering why I mention quality... All my friends are brilliant and different. Some are completely vanilla (a tiny minority) and most are totally kinky. They are all clever, interesting, challenging, positive basically they are alive! I keep in touch with them because they bring me such a joy. But I don't just take anyone on board. They have to have that "je ne sais quoi" that makes them stand out from the crowd. Once friend with me, you tend to be friend for life. I have 2 friends who have stuck around for all these years, P & V. They are both equally my best friends.
Those new friends have the potential of having such a marked influence in my life though only time will tell. I have met my soul mate as no one before got me the way he did but it only lasted a few months. You see, this is what I mean about quality. It is not a matter of number or length of time, it is all in the quality of the relationship.
I have noticed though that the greater majority are actually much younger than me, actually this is great.
But at the same time, I am faced to my own limitations as a single mum. I see all that they do and I am happy for them, it's brilliant. It is just not possible for me. So I am there on the outside looking in.
I went to the Crunch on Friday and had the realisation that this event is no longer for me. Why? The bar used to be opened by 7 and I could socialise a bit before leaving at 8:30 / 9 to be with my son. Opening at 8 makes it now totally pointless. And that's OK. I just won't do that one.
Now you are wondering why I mention quality... All my friends are brilliant and different. Some are completely vanilla (a tiny minority) and most are totally kinky. They are all clever, interesting, challenging, positive basically they are alive! I keep in touch with them because they bring me such a joy. But I don't just take anyone on board. They have to have that "je ne sais quoi" that makes them stand out from the crowd. Once friend with me, you tend to be friend for life. I have 2 friends who have stuck around for all these years, P & V. They are both equally my best friends.
Those new friends have the potential of having such a marked influence in my life though only time will tell. I have met my soul mate as no one before got me the way he did but it only lasted a few months. You see, this is what I mean about quality. It is not a matter of number or length of time, it is all in the quality of the relationship.
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